About a week or so ago i posted a picture of my New Year’s Resolution which was to read through a bunch of books i bought or requested as gifts over the past year or so. There are 8 in total, however my work is really cut out for me because i checked a few of them and the print is really small. However I chose this life. That being said I started with Loveology and while it will probably be the quickest read of all of them. It has impacted me deeply already.
The book is called “Loveology” and the tagline is “God. Love. Marriage. Sex. And the never-ending story of male and female.” The author is John Mark Comer who is a pastor in Portland of “Bridgetown: A Jesus Church”.
As an unmarried man of 30 I feel like i am this book’s key demographic. While the author seems to be talking a slightly younger audience, there are theories that I have had about Sex, love and marriage that have been strengthened through the author’s study of the scripture and commentary. Other ideas I have had have been changed completely.
So as I am typing this i am having an inner debate as to whether I am going to review and recommend this book or simply reflect my feelings toward it. Between this sentence and the last i have chosen the latter.
A long time ago I read a book called “I kissed Dating goodbye” which I felt like was a little corny, contrived and tough to put in practice. I read it when i was about 22 or 23 so maybe me being younger had something to do with why it was not quite so easy for me to accept. However Loveology used scripture and painted such a beautiful picture of marriage love and sex that feels like it made something click in my head.
There is a portion of the book that talks about being single and being married and how Paul (from the Bible) says that being single is a more effective way to serve God. This passage always depressed me because it made me feel like we are supposed to live our lives single (and sexless). However using the same passage the author of Loveology showed how we should accept our singleness as a gift and then also accept our marriage as a gift. The assignment Adam was given in the garden of Eden was to both tend to the garden and the animals. Eve was created to help Adam and together they were to take on that task. (the book goes in depth here I am not doing it much justice)
So now I feel like me being unmarried is a time in which I can truly be my best and do things spiritually that I will be unable to do when I am married. However when I am married I will be able to do things spiritually (and physically) that I am unable to do now.
This book talks about dating and courtship in such a conversational tone that even the parts I did not necessarily agree with were easier to at least comprehend and contemplate. The author talks not only about God, Love, Marriage, and Sex, but he also talks about women’s equality, homosexuality, and divorce in a way that allows for both constructive conversation and reflection.
Who am I kidding? I recommend this book to most people reading this post. If you are saved and single, saved and recently married, unsaved and single, unsaved and recently married. If you are in general just interested in hearing a Christian speak about conservative values without making you feel judged. Read this book, it’s called Loveology and you can get it on Amazon or wherever books are sold.